I have been feeling alienated from feminism. This has been true for the last six years ever since I had my son. In fact, I probably wouldn’t even call myself a feminist anymore except that I’m lazy and I don’t want to change this blog’s About page. I’ve had in mind a series of posts to talk about this. But first I wanted to give you some back story.
I was raised in a very conservative Catholic home. My parents divided the world into two types. There were the Catholics who practiced the true religion, and everyone else. Everyone else was going to hell. Period. But just being Catholic was not enough. The people they had the most disdain for were the “cafeteria Catholics.” You could always tell who the cafeteria Catholics were because they only had one or two kids as opposed to several. A small family meant birth control, and birth control meant you were going to hell. No matter that you didn’t have the means to support all of the children you were having. It also didn’t matter if you were in an unhappy marriage or had medical difficulties which made pregnancy dangerous. Your own personal circumstances were irrelevant. It was about being faithful to the church.
Now, my son has a saying, “I know that talk!” he’ll say when he recognizes the subtext of a conversation. Like when someone is afraid to do something, and they keep making excuses, he’ll say “I know that talk!”
So I’ve been reading some online discussions on some feminist web sites. And there is a whole lot of derision about “choice” feminism. (read the comments in the featured comment section below the article). Apparently, some feel that the word feminism has been too loosely adopted. Because you know, everyone is just tripping over themselves to call themselves a feminist.
Women who chose to become mothers, chose to leave the workforce and chose to stay home with their kids are apparently a threat to the movement. No matter if these were decisions that made sense for your situation or made you happy. Happiness is not important to the movement. But Ladies, as you cull the feminist herd, I want you to know, I know that talk.