I have a friend who is kind of a hot shot. She is so hot that she gets sent around the country to different events just to so she will tweet about it to her legion of followers. One of the events that she was invited to was a taping of Oprah’s LifeClass on Own. It was happening in New York and she invited me.
The trip was fantastic. I stayed with my sister and actually got along with my siblings, which is never a given. We had a great time. I only know my hot shot friend through the internet so I got to meet her in person, plus a boy genius that I also only know through the internet. It was fabulous.
The LifeClass, however, was a different story. I had never heard of Tony Robbins before but I was open to him. A LifeClass is just my cup of tea. I have been in recovery for 15 years, I go to therapy, I’ve read Codependent no more. You know, it’s my thing.
Robbins started out strangely by making everyone get up and jump around and hug people next to us. I don’t even hug people I do know, but whatever. He talked a lot about changing our story about ourselves. In other words, changing the messages that we give ourselves to that we aren’t self defeating. I was feeling it.
But then Oprah did an Oprah thing and started focusing on “ordinary” people. We saw videos about people who were going through various problems. One woman came on the screen. She held out a picture of herself and said, “This is who I used to be. This girl wanted to conquer the world.” The back story was that this woman had a successful company that eventually went under. She was now a stay at home mom. She said that she loved her kids but it wasn’t enough. She missed her business and she felt lost without work.
The video cut out, and what do you know, but this woman was in the audience. So Tony Robbins goes down to talk to her, and they cut to a commercial break. But we could still hear their conversation in the audience. He talked to her about what was really going on, and what a good mother she was. And then he said, “Everyone has a male and a female energy inside of them. What do you think you are more, female or male.” She said emphatically and without hesitation, “Male.” Then he said, “Are you sure?” She hesitated and said, “Female.” I wanted to throw something from the balcony. Female wasn’t really her answer. He made her change it.
He then went on. “Aren’t you tired of being in charge all of the time? Don’t you wish you could have someone take care of you?” And she said, “Sure.” He then told her that she needed to let her husband be in charge (honest to god) and that she needed to get in touch with her “female” energy. Apparently, not the same female energy that let’s Hillary be HBIC. But I digress. He tells her that her assignment was to dance naked and eat chocolates.
I honestly couldn’t believe what I was hearing. This woman was upset that she was no longer in business, and he was telling her to dance naked and be more feminine. But what drove me really crazy was that she accepted this. When the show came back from the commercial, Oprah asked her what she had learned. She said that she had learned that she needed to get in touch with her female energy and not be in charge all of the time.
I almost made an honest to go objection from the peanut gallery. That wasn’t her insight at all. That is what he fed her. 2012 and we are still being told not to worry our pretty little heads about things.